HOW TO CHERISH YOUR WOMEN: Part One--A Judeo-Christian Mandate! COPYRIGHT © JANUARY 14, 1996 All rights reserved. This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so inclined. This is an ASCII text only copy of a Macintosh MicrosoftWord5 file made for non-Macintosh folks, so it is very plain and basic in its form (footnotes, indentation and page layout). The document is 6" wide and Palatino 12 plain font in the original. So when your text only version comes up with Palatino 14, just find Select All (under File) and change it to Geneva 10, Helvetica 12 or Palatino 12 . That will smooth out the paragraphs and lines, giving you a much more readable file. By Lee Tyler P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763 oldservant@delphi.com lovenchosen@hotmail.com HOW DO YOU CHERISH A WOMAN? HOW SHOULD I CHERISH MY WOMEN, MY WIFE, MY DAUGHTER, MY SISTER, MY MOTHER? >>>1. Know that, unless you have the gift of celibacy (1Cor.7) and feel no need for marriage or sexual relationships, GOD says that it is NOT GOOD for man to be alone, and that He made a female helper suitable for him who is the solution for a man's "aloneness". Know it. Believe it. Accept it. Act on it. Receive it and her. Thank God for it and her. >Gen. 2:18 ¶ And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. >>>2. Know that women are a far better judge of their peers than you, as a male, could ever be, except with the Spirit's intervention. Respect, hear, receive (for serious consideration) a godly woman's spiritual evaluation of another woman. >Gen. 12:15 The princes of Pharaoh also saw her and commended her before Pharaoh. And the woman was taken into Pharaoh's house. >>>>3. Listen to and yield to your woman, if you may do so and still walk in the Way of the Word in obedience to Jesus. If she realizes that her request or decision was wrong, without "I told you so" or guilt tripping, help her make things right, seeking and accepting God's solution. If you believe her solution is wrong and respectfully so advise her, but she goes on with it anyway, give her to God, pray for her and ask God to shepherd her. If God intervenes to clean up her mess, help her to realize that God still loves her and seeks to bless her as she walks before Him in loving obedience, perhaps to make a great godly "noblewoman" out the precious "princess" that she is. He may even bless you through her, so take real good care of her, and listen wisely to her. >Gen. 16:2 And Sarai said to Abram, Behold now, the LORD has kept me from bearing. I pray you, go in to my slave woman. . . . Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. 3 And Sarai, Abram's wife, took Hagar her slave woman, the Egyptian, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife . . . .4 And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes.5 And Sarai said to Abram, My wrong [be] upon you. . . . . I was despised in her eyes. The LORD judge between me and you. 6 But Abram said to Sarai, Behold, your slave woman [is] in your hand. Do to her as it pleases you. And Sarai dealt harshly with her, and she fled from her face. 7 And the Angel of the LORD found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness, by the fountain in the way to Shur. . .9 And the Angel of the LORD said to her, Return to your mistress and submit yourself under her hands. 10 And the Angel of the LORD said to her, I will multiply your seed exceedingly, so that it shall not be numbered for multitude. 11 And the Angel of the LORD said to her, . . .the LORD has heard your affliction . . .Ge 17:15 And God said to Abraham, As for Sarai your wife, you shall not call her name Sarai [princess], but her name [shall be] Sarah [noblewoman]. 16 And I will bless her, and give you a son also of her. Yes, I will bless her, and she shall be [a mother] of nations, kings of people shall be from her. Gen. 21:12 And God said to Abraham, Let it not be grievous in your sight because of the boy and because of your slave woman. IN ALL THAT SARAH HAS SAID TO YOU, LISTEN TO HER VOICE. . . . .Ge 21:16 . . . she [Hagar] said, Let me not see the death of the boy. And she sat across from him, and lifted up her voice, and cried. 17 And God heard the voice of the boy, and the angel of God called to Hagar out of the heavens, and said to her, What ails you, Hagar? Do not fear, for God has heard the voice of the boy where he is. >>>>4. Recognize and joyfully accept the fact that God can work in your woman to want to do His will and then work in her enabling her to do His will. When she is being so motivated, enabled, led and activated---cherish her by supporting and encouraging her, serving her in any way you may. For sure watch her in silent prayer and meditation and see the prospering of the Lord. Then compassionately and affectionately cherish her, your precious princess, your noblewoman under construction, your gift from God. >Ge 24:16 And the young woman [was] very beautiful to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her. And she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up. 17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Please let me drink a little water of your pitcher. 18 And she said, Drink, my lord. And she hurried and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave [a] drink to him.20 And she hurried, and emptied her pitcher in the trough, and ran again to the well to draw [water]. And she drew for all his camels. 21 And the man was watching her, keeping silent, in order to know whether the LORD had prospered his journey or not. . . .57 And they said, We will call the young woman and inquire at her mouth. 58 And they called Rebekah, and said to her, Will you go with this man? And she said, I will go. . . 64 And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and she saw Isaac. And she dismounted from the camel. . . 67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife. And he loved her . . . Romans 8: 14 For as many as are led by [the] Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. Philippians 2:13 For it is God who works in you both to will and to do of [His] good pleasure. Pr 18:22 [Whoever] finds a wife finds good and gets favor from the LORD. Pr 19:14 . . . a prudent wife [is] from the LORD. >>>>5. Don't intimately and sexually touch the wife/woman of any other man. It is a matter of your life or your death. >Ge 20:4 But Abimelech had not come near her. And he said, Lord, will You also kill a righteous nation? Ge 20:6 And God said to him in a dream, Yes, I know that you did this in the sincerity of your heart. For I also withheld you from sinning against Me. Therefore I did not allow you to touch her. Ge 20:7 Now therefore, restore his wife to the man. For he [is] a prophet, and he shall pray for you, and you shall live. And if you do not restore her, know that you shall surely die, you, and all that are yours. Pr 6:26 For by means of a harlot [a man comes] to a piece of bread; and another man's wife will hunt for the precious life. . . . 29 So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent. 1Thess. 4:1 ¶ For the rest, then, my brothers, we beseech you and exhort [you] in [the] Lord Jesus, that, as you have received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, so you would abound more [and more]. 2 For we know what commands we gave you by the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification, for you to abstain from fornication, 4 each one of you to know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor 5 (not in the passion of lust, even as the nations who do not know God), 6 not to go beyond and defraud his brother in this matter (because the Lord [is the] avenger concerning all these, as we also have forewarned you and testified). 7 For God has not called us to uncleanness, but in sanctification. 8 Therefore he who despises does not despise man, but God, who also has given us His Holy Spirit. >>>>6. Do you want to enjoy life so much that you aren't really conscious of time passing? Passionately, affectionately, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, sexually and enthusiastically compassionately cherish your princess and noble wife. >Ge 29:20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him a few days, for the love he had for her. 21 And Jacob said to Laban, Give [me] my wife, for my days are fulfilled, so that I may go in to her. Proverbs 5: 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 [Like] the loving deer and pleasant doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished [orgasmic] always with her love. >>>>7. If your woman is hurting so bad, grieving so much, so distraught, so upset, so troubled that she makes a decision, says something, does something that you know is hurtful, not edifying, regrettable for her----intervene as God's head in your home and act to set right that which you know is wrong, gently and humbly looking to Jesus. >Ge 35:18 And it happened as her soul was departing (for she died) that she called his name Benoni [son of my sorrow]. But his father called him Benjamin [son of the right hand]. 1 Corinthians 11: 3 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the [wife] [is] the [husband]; and the head of Christ [is] God. Galatians 6: 1 ¶ Brothers, if a [person] is overtaken in a fault, you the spiritual ones restore such a one in the spirit of meekness, considering yourself, lest you also be tempted. 2 Bear one another's burdens, and so you will fulfill the law of Christ. >>>>8. If one of your women (sister, daughter, aunt, mother) is a widow, BE THERE FOR HER! Be part of the wind in her sails! Be a part of her bridge over troubled waters! Bear her up and proclaim that she isn't heavy, she's one of your women! If she needs food or drink, she sees you bringing food. If she's short on clothing or rent, she sees you filling the need, standing in the gap. If she's being attacked by Satan sexually, missing and yearning for the sweet loving of her departed husband, so that she slips and sins too often for soul peace in the Lord and is burning in the struggle with her heart's and body's----then you fast and pray with her trusting God to keep His promise and meet her need of a godly husband and bless her with sexual fulfillment in marriage. >Ge 38:6 And Judah took a wife for Er his first-born, whose name [was] Tamar. . . 11 Then said Judah to Tamar, his daughter-in-law, Remain a widow at your father's house until Shelah my son is grown. For he said, Lest perhaps he die also, as his brothers [did]. And Tamar went and lived in her father's house. . . 26 And Judah acknowledged [them], and said, She has been more righteous than I have, because I did not give her to my son Shelah. And he never knew her again. Deuteronomy 25:5 ¶ If brothers live together, and one of them dies and has no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry outside to a stranger. Her husband's brother [married or single] shall go in to her and take her as a wife for himself, and perform the duty of a husband's brother to her. 6 And it shall be, the first-born whom she bears shall succeed in the name of his dead brother, so that his name may not be put out of Israel. 7 And if the man does not want to take his brother's wife, then let his brother's wife go up to the gate to the elders and say, My husband's brother refuses to raise up a name in Israel to his brother. He will not perform my levirate. 8 Then the elders of his city shall call him and speak to him. And [if] he stands and says, I do not desire to take her, 9 then his brother's wife shall come to him in the presence of his elders, and take off his shoe from his foot, and spit in his face, and shall answer and say, So shall it be done to that man who will not build up his brother's house. 10 And his name shall be called in Israel, The house of him who has his shoe taken off. 1 Timothy 5: 8 But if any one does not provide for his own, and specially for those of [his] house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than the unbeliever. 9 Let a widow be put upon the list, being of not less than sixty years, [having been] wife of one man, 10 borne witness to in good works, if she have brought up children, if she have exercised hospitality, if she have washed saints' feet, if she have imparted relief to the distressed, if she have diligently followed every good work. 11 But younger widows decline; for when they >feel the impulses of sexual desire contrary to< Christ, they desire to marry, [>See Arndt & Gingrich,Thayer,Strong's; 1Cor.7:9<] 12 being guilty, because they have >broken their first pledged/promised faithfulness<. >[See Arndt & Gingrich,Thayer,Strong's; i.e. they have failed to control themselves in the manner to which they had committed themselves in Christ- - - -1Cor.7:9=But if they have not control over themselves, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn.]< 13 And, at the same time, they learn also [to be] idle, going about to people's houses; and not only idle, but also gossipers and meddlers, speaking things not becoming. 14 I will therefore that the younger marry, bear children, rule the house, give no occasion to the adversary in respect of reproach. 15 For already some have turned aside after Satan. [1Corinth.7:5= Defraud not one another, unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and again be together, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.] 16 If any believing man or woman have widows, let them impart relief to them, and let not the assembly be charged, that it may impart relief to those [that are] widows indeed. >>>>9. When Jesus created Adam and Eve and gave them to each other, they were totally equal in every way before and under Jesus. Then Adam and Eve disobeyed and dishonored Jesus. The consequences you can read below, but among them is the statement that the husband shall rule over the wife-- NOT "the husband is commanded to rule over his wife". Compassionately cherish your wife by acknowledging that your headship over your wife is a consequence of sin, not the original plan of Jesus. Compassionately cherish your wife by acknowledging that Eve and your wife were not commanded then to submit to their husband's rule. The husband's rule WAS ONLY PREDICTED as God's plan for them in their relationship. Compassionately cherish your wife by being the godly head of the marriage that realizes that being head is an accountability position, accountable for the marriage to Jesus who is his Head. Compassionately cherish your wife by being the head of the marriage who DOES NOT USE LORDSHIP over his wife, who DOES NOT EXERCISE AUTHORITY on his wife, but who esteems her better than himself and himself the lesser who is to serve Jesus Christ in her. Compassionately cherish your wife by accepting God's statement that it must be her decision and her choice to put herself in subjection to you, her husband. Compassionately cherish your wife by accepting Jesus command that you, her husband, are never in the Word commanded to make or coerce her to put herself into subjection to you--- accepting the command of Jesus that you must not use lordship or exercise your authority over her, NOT LORDING OVER HER, but humbly and meekly teaching and spiritually feeding her, being a living example before her eyes of how she should live and act in the marriage. And if she rejects your headship, spurns your teaching and exampling, and despises your service to her, then you commit yourself to compassionately cherishing her in the manner prescribed in Matthew 18:15-20; Galatians 6:1,2; 2 Timothy 2:24-26. >Gen. 2: 16 ¶ To the woman He said, I will greatly increase your sorrow and your conception. In pain you shall bear sons, and your desire shall be toward your husband, and he shall rule over you. 17 ¶ And to Adam He said, Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree, of which I commanded you, saying, You shall not eat [of] it! The ground [is] cursed for your sake. In pain shall you eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It shall also bring forth thorns and thistles to you, and you shall eat the herb of the field. 19 In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread until you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken. For dust you [are], and to dust you shall return. 1 Corinthians 11: 3 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the [wife is] the [husband]; and the head of Christ [is] God. Luke 22: 25 And He said to them, The kings of the nations exercise lordship over them. And they who exercise authority on them are called benefactors. 26 But you [shall] not [be] so: but the greater among you, let him be as the lesser, and he who governs, as [one] who serves. 27 For which [is] the greater; he who reclines, or he who serves? [Is] it not he who reclines? But I am among you as He who serves. 1 Peter 3:1 ¶ Likewise, wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands, so that if any do not obey the word, they may also be won without the word by the conduct of the wives, 2 having witnessed your chaste behavior in [the] fear [of God]. 3 Of whom let not be the adorning of garments, or outward braiding of hair and wearing of gold, or of putting on clothing, 4 but [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, the meek and quiet spirit, which is of great price in the sight of God. 5 For so once indeed the holy women hoping in God adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands; 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord; whose children you became, doing good and fearing no terror. 7 Likewise, husbands, live together according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, the female, as truly [being] co-heirs together of [the] grace of life, not cutting off your prayers. 1 Peter 5:1 ¶ I exhort the elders [leaders/rulers] who are among you, . . . 2 Feed the flock of God among you, taking the oversight, not by compulsion, but willingly; . . . 3 nor as lording it over those allotted [to you by God], but becoming examples to the flock. 4 And when the Chief Shepherd shall appear, you shall receive a never-fading crown of glory. >>>>We are instructed to examine and scrutinize ourselves in order to deal with and correct or erroneous ways so Jesus wont have to chasten/discipline us (1Cor.11). How do you do on this check off list? __1. Do you know that even GOD says that it is NOT GOOD for man to be alone? __2. Do you know that He claims to have made females as helpers suitable for man, so she is the solution for a man's "aloneness" and sexual needs? __3. Are you thankful for her? __4. Do you know that women are a far better judge of their female peers than you, as a male, could ever be? __5. Do you respect, hear, receive (for serious consideration) your woman's evaluation of another woman, when appropriate? __6. Do you really listen to and yield to your woman, if you may do so and still walk in your personal integrity? __7. Do you help her make things right, seeking and accepting good solutions, if she realizes that her request or decision was wrong, without "I told you so" or guilt tripping? __8. Do you give her the respect that enables her to take a chance on something she really believes in and make a mistake and not feel condemned by you, even if you believed her solution was wrong and respectfully you so advised her? __9. Do you help her to realize that you still love her and seek to build her even if you have to intervene at her request to help her clean up her mess? __10. Do you believe that she may be such a help as to build you and make you a better person by her encouragement and inspiration? __11. Do you recognize and joyfully accept the fact that she is important and what she does is important for both of your lives together? __12. Do you cherish her by supporting and encouraging her, serving her in any way you may when she is motivated, enabled, led and activated by something/someone important to her? __13. Are you careful not to betray her trust in you or expextations of you in your relationships with other women? __14. Do you passionately, affectionately, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, sexually and enthusiastically compassionately cherish your woman as a princess and noble wife? __ 15. Do you intervene and act to set right that which you know is wrong when your woman is hurting so bad, grieving so much, so distraught, so upset, so troubled that she makes a decision, says something, does something that you know is hurtful, not edifying, regrettable for her, and she doesn't have it together enough at the time to ask for your help or appreciate your help? __16. Are you THERE for her when she needs you? __17. Does she have food or drink, as long as you have food or drink? __18. Does she have clothing and shelter as long as you have clothing and shelter? __19. Do you meet her need of a male committed to her and bless her with sexual fulfillment in a committed relationship if she's being in need sexually, missing and yearning for your sweet loving ? __20. Do you believe that you and your woman are equally important to God in every way ? __21. Do you believe that the husband should provide wise leadership for his woman, communicating with and advising her as they go along through life together? __22. Do you know that a man should never boss, tyrannize, harass, intimidate, hit or hurt his woman? __23. Do you compassionately cherish your woman, respecting her importance and value as a fellow traveler through this life? __24. Do you compassionately cherish your woman by accepting responsibility for her, her life and her activities as your partner? __25. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by considering her as important and valuable as yourself? __26. Do you compassionately cherish your woman by accepting that it must be her decision and her choice to follow your lead and accept your suggestions? >>>>How do you do on this more scriptural check off list? __1. Do you know that, unless you have the gift of celibacy (1Cor.7) and feel no need for marriage or sexual relationships, GOD says that it is NOT GOOD for man to be alone? __2. Do you know that He made a female helper suitable for a man, who is the solution for a man's "aloneness"? __3. Have you thanked God for His provision, and her? __4. Do you know that women are a far better judge of their peers than you, as a male, could ever be, except with the Spirit's intervention? __5. Do you respect, hear, receive (for serious consideration) a godly woman's spiritual evaluation of another woman, when appropriate? __6. Do you listen to and yield to your woman, if you may do so and still walk in the Way of the Word in obedience to Jesus? __7. Do you help her make things right, seeking and accepting God's solution, if she realizes that her request or decision was wrong, without "I told you so" or guilt tripping? __8. Do you give her to God, pray for her and ask God to shepherd her, if you believe her solution is wrong and respectfully so advise her, but she goes on with it anyway? __9. Do you help her to realize that God still loves her and seeks to bless her as she walks before Him in loving obedience, perhaps to make a great godly "noblewoman" out the precious "princess" that she is, if God intervenes to clean up her mess? __10. Do you believe that He may even bless you through her? __11. Do you recognize and joyfully accept the fact that God can work in your woman to want to do His will and then work in her enabling her to do His will? __12. Do you cherish her by supporting and encouraging her, serving her in any way you may when she is being so motivated, enabled, led and activated by God's Spirit? __13. Are you careful not to intimately and sexually touch the wife/woman of any other man, knowing that it is a matter of your life or your death? __14. Do you passionately, affectionately, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, sexually and enthusiastically compassionately cherish your princess and noble wife? __ 15. Do you intervene as God's head in your home and act to set right that which you know is wrong when your woman is hurting so bad, grieving so much, so distraught, so upset, so troubled that she makes a decision, says something, does something that you know is hurtful, not edifying, and regrettable for her, all the time gently and humbly looking to Jesus? __16. If one of your women (sister, daughter, aunt, mother) is a widow, are you THERE FOR HER? __17. Does she have food or drink, as long as you have food or drink? __18. Does she have clothing and shelter as long as you have clothing and shelter? __19. Do you fast and pray with her trusting God to keep His promise and meet her need of a godly husband and bless her with sexual fulfillment in marriage if she's being attacked by Satan sexually, missing and yearning for the sweet loving of her departed husband, so that she slips and sins too often for soul peace in the Lord and is burning in the struggle with her heart's and body's----? __20. Do you believe that when Jesus created Adam and Eve and gave them to each other, they were totally equal in every way before and under Jesus? __21. Do you believe that the husband shall rule over the wife? __22. Do you know that the husband is NOT "commanded to rule over his wife"? __23. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by acknowledging that your headship over your wife is a consequence of sin, not the original plan of Jesus? __24. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by being the godly head of the marriage that realizes that being head is an accountability position, accountable for his conduct as leader/teacher in the marriage, accountable to Jesus who is his Head? __25. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by being the head of the marriage who DOES NOT USE LORDSHIP over his wife, who DOES NOT EXERCISE AUTHORITY on his wife, but who esteems her better than himself and himself the lesser who is to serve Jesus Christ in her? __26. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by accepting God's statement that it must be her decision and her choice to put herself in subjection to you, her husband? __27. Do you compassionately cherish your wife by accepting Jesus command that you, her husband, are never in the Word commanded to make or coerce her to put herself into subjection to you---accepting the command of Jesus that you must not use lordship over her or exercise your authority over her, NOT LORDING OVER HER, but humbly and meekly teaching and spiritually feeding her, being a living example before her eyes of what you are trying to teach her in your marriage? __28. If she rejects your headship, spurns your teaching and exampling, and despises your service to her, do you then commit yourself to compassionately cherishing her in the manner prescribed in Matthew 18:15-20; Galatians 6:1,2; 2 Timothy 2:24-26? >>>>How did you do? This godly behavior is not natural and doesn't come naturally. Only Jesus, by His Spirit, can work in you to want to do it. Only Jesus, by His Spirit, can enable and activate you, doing it in you as you yield your body, soul and spirit to Him. Only Jesus can compassionately cherish your wife these ways through you, so reckon yourself dead indeed to your own selfish ways and yield yourself entirely to Him to make you His ambassador of Love, Truth, Light and Life to your beloved women. WHAT DO YOU THINK? THE FEEDING OF TWO LEGGED OXEN. I am not trying to meddle or cause trouble. I just want to know if there are any mistakes in the ideas above in terms of scripture alone, not in terms of the condemned traditions and doctrines of people (Mark 7).I really want to know what the Bible says about the subjects discussed above. I want to live by every Word of God, not by the commandments and traditions of man (Mat. 15, Mark 7 and Colos 2). PLEASE ADVISE ME OF ANY AND ALL ERRORS (TYPOS, DOCTRINAL, ETC.) THAT YOU FIND. PLEASE GIVE ME CLEAR AND EXPLICIT SCRIPTURES DEALING WITH THE ERROR WHEN YOU WRITE. I WANT THE WORD, NOT OPINIONS AND PARADIGMS. Any and all donations are welcomed for the furthering and the expense of this very controversial ministry. Donations are welcome for the furthering of this ministry. It has taken a great deal of time. If the information in this work has ministered to you, I would appreciate your ministry to me to get this information out and to the Church. Otherwise I have to "make tents". If I time from "making tents" permits, this work will be revised monthly. In the next publication/distribution I hope to provide the actual texts for all references. Ro 15:27 Truly it has pleased them, and they are their debtors. For if the nations have been made partakers of their spiritual things, their duty is also to minister to them in carnal things. 1 Cor. 9:9 For it is written in the law of Moses, "You shall not muzzle the mouth of the ox treading out grain." Does God take care for oxen? 10 Or does He say [it] altogether for our sakes? It was written for us, so that he who plows should plow [in] hope, and so that he who threshes [in] hope should be partaker of his hope. 11 If we have sown to you spiritual things, [is it] a great thing if we shall reap your carnal things? 12 If others have a share of [this] authority [over] you, rather [should] not we? But we have not used this authority, but we endured all things lest we should hinder the gospel of Christ. 13 Do you not know that those who minister about holy things live [of the things] of the temple? And those attending the altar are partakers with the altar. 14 Even so, the Lord ordained those announcing the gospel to live from the gospel.Galatians 6:6 But let him who is taught in the Word share with the [one] teaching in all good things. 1Ti 5:17 Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in word and doctrine. 18 For the Scripture says, "You shall not muzzle the ox treading out grain," and, "The laborer [is] worthy of his reward." TYLER,P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763 AS THE LORD LEADS. These files are designed for (1) those who want to learn how to unselfishly and compassionately cherish their women; (2) those who have experienced divorce,to any degree, and are looking for Godly and Biblical Judeo-Christian solutions and guidance on how to see God redeem the experience; (3) those who are in, or considering, polygynous relationships; (4) those who came to the Lord as concubines and want to understand godly and Christian concubinage; (5) those Black and minority believers who want reassurance that indeed their color, their race, their nationality and/or their appearance -- has no significant impact or affect on their relationship with the incarnated, crucified, risen and soon to return Lord Jesus Christ, the Messiah of Israel; (6) those who wish a deeper understanding of God's will for and in their sexuality and any problems they might be having with their sexuality; and for (7) those who want more insight in joining Jesus and His angels in their warfare against the evil spiritual beings who are causing problems for mankind, including our loved ones. The following files are available as described below. Please request any that seem interesting or of use to you. All constructive and informative comments are welcome. >>1. HUSBAND RULE OVER THE WIFE? WHICH CAVE DID YOU CRAWL OUT OF? Servant-leaders don't rule, but gently and peacefully teach, exhort, model, encourage, compassionately rebuke and cherish their wives unselfishly and compassionately. ["husbandwiferelations.txt"] >>2. INFORMAL MARRIAGE and COMMON LAW MARRIAGE. WHAT MAKES A Mariage/WEDDING? [as "commonlaw.informal.marriage"] >>3.INTERRACIAL,INTERETHNIC MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS IN JESUS. Race and ethnicity have no place signicantly influencing human interpersonal relationships, in the Church, in society, in marriage. [ as "interracial=ethnic marriage"] >>4. JESUS, IS HE GOD, JEHOVAH, THE SON OF GOD, THE SON OF MAN, THE ONLY WAY TO GOD? Jesus and the Trinity.[Available only by emial] >>5. OATHS, FORMAL SWEARINGS, SOLEMN PROMISES, COVENANTS AND JESUSMat. 5:33-37 (swear not all) and James 4:13-17 with James 5:12 (do not swear), what do these passages mean. [as "keepingOne'sWord.txt"] >>6. THE POWER FOR GOOD OF FEMININE BEAUTY AND MALE HANDSOMENESS. We are stewards of these socially significant gifts. See also Man's Need of Woman. [as "feml.power.poly"] >>7. RACISIM, ETHNOCENTRISM, NATIONALISM VS JESUS Jesus vs racism, prejudice, bias, discrimination, favoritism, bigotry . [as "racism.nationalism"] >>8. UNDERAGE BURNING--THE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT WHO ARE NOT SUCCESSFULLY CONTROLLING THEMSELVES SEXUALLY What do I do if I am underage, too young to marry and a financially dependent youth and I keep on blowing it sexually, letting Jesus and myself down by not consistently controlling myself sexually? [Available only by email] >>9. UNEQUAL YOKE??? Do i look like a farmer?? So why shouldn't I marry this unbelieving/unsaved person, or this person who claims to be saved but has a sin problem???? [Available by email or by ftp as an appendix of a large file} >>10. Why the Christian Woman Has Only One Husband? If men practice polygyny, why shouldn't women practice polyandry? What does the Bible say? [as "polyandry"] >>11. WHEN DO I HAVE TO MARRY, IN JESUS, AND WITH WHOM? An in depth look at 1 Corinthians 7:9,36; 1 Timothy 5:14ff; and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-10, and the command to marry when burning. [as "WhenToMarry",] >>12. Angels,Demons, Spirits and You Today. [as "YouAndAngels"] >>13. Biblical Morality, Pornography, Sex etc. 118k A cross cultural point of view from a Christian anthropogist. [ as "BiblicalPolyM orality"] >>14. The Black Family Crisis, and the Plight of the Black Female. 40 % of Black women NEVER MARRY. Of the 60 % that do, 30% end in divorce and usually don't remarry successfully. The number of marriageable Black women greatly exceeds the number of marriageable Black men. Does the Bible deal with this? [as "PlightOfBlkFem_Fam" (newer), or as "BlackFamPoly" (older),] >>15. The Tithe and the Christian. Should we, and why? An indepth Bible study. [Available by email only] >>16. A Manual of Marital Intimacy for My Daughters. Want to help me ? [Available by email only] >>17. Why Do The Godly/Good Suffer? Does it pay to be "good"? Why do the "good" suffer so much, so often? [ as "LetterToFriend" ] >>18. Divorce/Abandonment, How Can a Follower of Christ Survive It? You love Jesus, but you find yourself divorced or abandonned and you want to be married happily in the Lord, what can you do? [ as "HowSurviveDivorce" (newer); or "poly.and.divorce" (older)] >>19. Keeping one's word. Vows, promises, covenants, oaths etc. even when it hurts and costs dearly. [ as "KeepingOne'sWord".] >>20. Matchmaker Resources for those seeking marriage. >>21. Cherish Your Women, Part 1 Gleanings from Genesis on how to compassionately cherish your women with a self-evaluation check off list. >>22. Should prisoners be denied wholesome godly marital sex? ["prisoner.abuse] >>23. Mini.poly: A condensed look at polygyny in the scriputes, especially the Old Testament. >>24. Quotes on Polygyny by St. Augustine and Biblical Scholars ["ChristianPoly". ] >>25.DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE, CONCUBINES, JESUS AND GENUINE BELIEVERS ["DivorceRemarriageConcubines"] >>26. POLYGYNOUS CHRISTIANS AND CHRITIAN CONCUBINES ["PolygamyConcubines" (newer), or as "polygyny.concubines" (older)] >>27. Why Would the Christian Woman Share Her Husband? ["why.wife.share.husband" (newer), or as "poly.western.woman" (older)] >>28. What are the Christian leaders' objections to polygyny? Please see some of the main pro's and the con's in this file ["objections2poly"] >>29. No Wedding Vows! A file offering scriptural reasons for using covenants rather than vows in one's wedding. ["noweddingvows"] >>30. Is polygyny a Christian option? A discussion of polygyny in the New Testament and in the Protestant reformation. ["christianpolytoday"] >>31. What are the "keys" to living together in Loving unity? Gleanings from Amy Carmichael and the Bible on what it takes for a family or fellowship to realize this miracle. ["keys2lovingunity" for Christian polygynists, "keys4LovingUnity for Christian monogynists] >>32. MY LOVE IS A GARDEN OF DELIGHTS! aka SongOfSolomonPt1.txt, a 301k commentary on the Song of Solomon, interracial marriage (his black-as-a-raven wife), and Christian polygyny and concubines. >>33. Prayers of Spiritual warfare for those who want to join the fight for the souls of their loved ones. These are the prayers of the Bible, inspired prayers of God's servants, adapted to the needs and spiritual warfare you encounter as a servant of Christ in your service to your loved ones and to Christ today. [Prayers4LovedOnes] >>34. Legal Christian Polygamy. How do Christians who are called to Christ in polygyny, or are called to polygyny in Christ, walk in a world that condemns polygyny? >>35. Man's Need of Woman. What every man with high testosterone blood levels wishes his wife understood. The wife's help meet ministry to her husband, oR OH GOD! I NEED HER SOOOOO MUCH! If you want any of these files, Etext Archives : URL: http://www.etext.org Location : /pub/Religious.texts/polyamory or ftp: "gopher.etext.org" Name: "ftp" Password: your email address Location: /pub/Religious.texts/polyamory If you have any problems with the URL or the ftp, contact ftp@etext.org or Rita@etext.org. or L. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763 or L. Tyler P.O. Box 734, El Centro,CA 92244 OTHER RESOURCES http://home.sn.no/~cwarren Use WebCrawler etc. to find "Christian Polygamy" on the Webb. http://pages.prodigy.com/polyg/seminary.htm This website on polygamy is found at http://pages.prodigy.com/polyg/index.htm This website is located at http://www.netcom.com/~polyg/index.html Use your ftp gopher for :gopher.etext.org/Religious/Polyamory http://www.netcom.com/%7Epolyg/index.html http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/Hezekiah/Biblpoly.ht m http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/Hezekiah/Poly- pos.htm http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/Hezekiah/Polylink.ht m You may find John/Ian Seminary webpage at http://pages.prodigy.com/polyg/seminary.htm This website on polygamy is found at http://pages.prodigy.com/polyg/index.htm This website is located at http://www.netcom.com/~polyg/index.html http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/Hezekiah/polyga my.html http://www.netcom.com/~polyg/index.html http://bfree.org email: cwarren@sn.no (Christopher C. Warren) ht@bfree.org and bfree@bfree.org ( S. John Butt) polyg@ix.netcom.com (John Ben David, M.Div.) 101733.613@compuserve.com or Hezekiah@compuserve.com (Sam Chapman)