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       Chapter 15 (And Protect Us From All Anxiety)
       By: Jday1106 Date: July 23, 2018, 10:18 am
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       How do you manage stress and anxiety in your life? What are your
       biggest stressors you deal with? Do you have a healthy sleep
       schedule? What do you do to ensure a goods night rest? How do
       children impact your stress, anxiety, and sleep?
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       Re: Chapter 15 (And Protect Us From All Anxiety)
       By: Jday1106 Date: July 26, 2018, 9:41 am
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       Stress and anxiety are two things that unfortunately we all have
       to deal with, for some it is severe and for others it is mild. I
       would say that I have a pretty laid back personality and usually
       do not become stressed out or anxious too easily; however, I
       still deal with it. My most recent stress and anxiety has
       resulted from Andrew being out of town for work since March, I
       keep a pretty routine schedule and I'm use to certain chores
       being done by the two of us. With him being gone I feel like my
       routine has been all off and I've been focusing a lot more on
       the chores that he would normally do around the house rather
       then my own chores. I am definitely OCD and not being able to
       keep up with stuff like normal has definitely increased my
       anxiety and stress. On top of that like any other married
       couple, finances always cause stress and anxiety (unless you
       just have unlimited money to do with whatever you want, we
       however are not like that). Having to manage money with a second
       person can always cause issues because it is two people who have
       two different perspectives. Work is another outlet where stress
       and anxiety can come into play. For me I have an amazing job;
       however, lately the people I work with have been driving me
       crazy. My coworkers are full of negativity and complaints that
       have become a daily battle I have to deal with when I come to
       work, figuring out how to manage this has started causing some
       stress in my work life. Even little pointless stuff like
       decorating can cause stress and anxiety. I am such a
       perfectionist and just putting a wreath or floral arrangement
       together can leave me stressed out if I feel like I'm putting a
       lot of time and effort into it and in the end it ends up looking
       horrible. I had one other example but it totally left me. The
       point is we are all full of stress and anxiety that can range
       from small little things to big things, and it's important to
       know how to manage the stressors we encounter, and for each of
       us that may look different.
       For me managing my stress and anxiety consists of numerous
       things. Sometimes I'm in the middle of doing something and I may
       just have to stop and switch gears and take a break and move on
       to something else to get my mind off it. Exercising is a good
       outlet. Alot of the time if I need to just take some time and
       clear my head I take George on a walk. Talking to someone is
       helpful. Mom is a huge outlet for me when dealing with stress
       and anxiety. When it comes to Andrew and I, I've learned to keep
       alot of our stuff private but other stuff going on I let it all
       out on the phone with her. Prayer is also beneficial for me. God
       tells us to not worry and trust in him, so when I'm finding it
       difficult to manage something going on I tell him all my
       stresses, anxieties, frustrations, etc. and ask him to just lift
       them all off of me and help me to just trust in him and know
       everything will be fine and work out the way it should.
       Sometimes this can be hard but over time I've learned that if I
       do that and just let go and trust in him, stuff really does work
       out. Yelling at people can also make you feel good, but I try
       not to do this too often because usually once you're feeling
       better you feel terrible that you just went off on somebody when
       you probably shouldn't have got so aggressive. Plus you just
       pissed someone off and put them in a bad mood and that's not
       going to help your situation, I know for me it usually makes my
       situation even worse.
       Sleeping fortuneatly for me is not an issue. I love sleeping. I
       love sleeping in and I hate waking up early. Not being able to
       have children is probably a blessing in disguise because God
       knows how much I love to sleep. When I get in bed and lay my
       head down I am out and I sleep like a rock all night. If you
       wake me up in the middle of the night I'm like a zombie. Usually
       if I have to wake up to go pee it's a success if I didn't crash
       into anything, and I always have to pinch myself to make sure
       I'm actually up and peeing in the toilet. I have definitly found
       it beneficial not to fall asleep with the TV on. Andrew loves
       sleeping the with the TV on and I hate it. The flashing white
       lights and noise in the back ground drive me crazy. They
       actually say it's horrible to fall asleep like that because the
       light from the tv keeps your brain from going into REM sleep
       which is the most important part of your sleep cycle. That's
       really my only advice for having good sleep hygiene, well that
       and never go to sleep mad. I can't sleep if I'm extremely mad
       about something, I'll lay in bed all night thinking about it. So
       try to always resolve your issues before going to bed.
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       Re: Chapter 15 (And Protect Us From All Anxiety)
       By: MommaAshley Date: July 26, 2018, 12:14 pm
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       How do you manage stress and anxiety in your life? What are your
       biggest stressors you deal with? Do you have a healthy sleep
       schedule? What do you do to ensure a goods night rest? How do
       children impact your stress, anxiety, and sleep?
       How do I manage stress and anxiety, gosh I'm honestly not sure
       that I have this one figured out. I have struggled with anxiety
       for years, probably most of my life, but I've just recently (in
       the last 5 years) really understood exactly what was happening
       to my body. I always was made to feel like I was crazy, but in
       reality, my anxiety can present in irritation. My mood can go
       from one extreme to another and I felt like I couldn't control
       it. Deep down I hated feeling this way, I hated isolation, but
       that's what I ended up doing to protect myself and other's, not
       physically, but emotionally. Our mind is so complex, it's scary.
       To the point, I have learned to talk more about what actually
       triggers me, even if it sounds "wrong." I take medicine and I
       know that getting sun and exercise help immensely.
       Our current stress surrounds the children, not having them, but
       making sure we are raising them the best we can. We have
       pre-teens that are talking back and being sassy. We have to
       realize they are full of emotions and they need to learn to
       process them in a healthy way, while maintaining respect for
       those around them. Let me tell you how hard it is to deal with a
       13 year old who can't seem to know the importance of brushing
       his teeth or showering on the daily. Just do it son, please. We
       also stress about moving. We are finally in a place that's
       comfortable and we can buy a house we love, but we don't want to
       change schools. We have 3 kids in 2 different schools. I know
       how hard that would be for them, especially the older two.
       Middle and high school are already challenging. We're taking it
       day by day.
       I do not get a good night's rest as of now, but I do appreciate
       one. Ruby still wakes up several times a night. So while I may
       be in bed for 8-9 hours, I'm not sleeping. I'm interrupted 4-5
       times and that makes it worse. We do make sure our kids get a
       good night sleep, it's very important, especially during the
       school year. We tend to be more lenient during the summer.
       I love working out. I love to sweat, but only when working out.
       There's a feeling you get after working out, taking a shower,
       and then laying out flat. My whole body feels good. It's like
       sore, but good. Like a whole bunch of "yay you did it," are
       running through my bloodstream! I don't work out as much as I
       should, anxiety plays a huge role there. I struggle to leave the
       house sometimes. There can be days at a time that I stay in the
       house, not even going outside at all. I know this isn't good for
       me, I'm working on it!!
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