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Re: Chapter 5 (Special Circumstances) and Chapter 6 (You're Neve
r Alone) Combination
By: Birdie Date: June 26, 2018, 1:00 pm
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[quote author=MommaAshley link=topic=7.msg66#msg66
date=1530022861]
[quote author=Birdie link=topic=7.msg62#msg62 date=1529974469]
Chapter 5 Special Circumstances
I thought this was a really sweet chapter. I admire parents
that are able to adopt or foster children, especially children
with special needs. It takes a really special person to be able
to handle all that comes with that responsibility. I loved the
quote from Mother Teresa, “Do not think that love, in order to
be genuine, has to be extraordinary.” I think we can apply this
to just being a Mom. Sometimes we think we have to do something
really special to show our love for our children, but really it
just needs to be genuine and consistent.
When I listened to Lindsey’s youtube channel on this Chapter she
mentioned another youtuber – “This Gathered Nest.” I checked it
out and I am in love with them. They are a very special couple
and have a very special and unique family. They have two
biological daughters, one boy adopted from Congo (I think that’s
right), one boy adopted from the US and a girl (with downs
syndrome) adopted from China. “I want fried chicken!!” They
also have a set of twins from Embryo Adoption. She carried
them, but they are left overs that someone didn’t use when doing
“in vitro.” I had never heard of that. Anyway, I find them
very loving parents and those kids are really lucky to have them
as parents.
Chapter 6 – You’re Never Alone
I think the thing I took away from this is remembering how hard
it was when I was a single parent and only 19 – yikes! Very
scary. I know how important it was for me to be surrounded by
my family who helped me tremendously. Luckily I found my
“knight in shining armor” who joined both of us and never looked
back. But, I agree with the author in that it’s very important
to ask for help when you need it, lean on your friends and
family, and also make sure to take care of yourself. If you are
not taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to be the best
parent for your kids.
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I'm so grateful for Nana & Pepaw and then for Dad. I know the
two of us started off live together, just us, but that wasn't
the plan for your life, or plan. I can't imagine what life might
have been like, one small change in our history would not have
us here today. I'm thankful for your strength and maturity even
at 19.
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Awh thank you Ashley!
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Re: Chapter 5 (Special Circumstances) and Chapter 6 (You're Neve
r Alone) Combination
By: Birdie Date: June 26, 2018, 1:06 pm
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[quote author=MommaAshley link=topic=7.msg69#msg69
date=1530023602]
Hey guys, sorry this post is so late. I haven't been good with
my time management. I have 4,358 kids who need me all the time,
lol!
While I do not have any children with special needs, I did at
one time have a child with a life threatening illness. I think
this could almost be worse. You never know if they will get
better or worse. When B was sick, our priorities changed. All
the little things we stressed about just sort of disappeared and
we were faced with new challenges and struggles. As a mom, my
main focus was to care for B. At the time, I had two other
children and a husband who worked full-time. I had to leave them
behind and move to a brand new place. I was thrown into this
world without being asked how I felt about it, there was no
control, so I subconsciously controlled the things I could. Like
my diet, weight, hair, and my attitude. I was very particular
and protective of who came into contact with B, that I could
control. However, over time, her illness took a toll and I had a
breakdown. I didn't ask for help, but her team of doctors could
see me spiraling and they loved me just as they loved her. I
began to seek help and could feel certain burdens lifted.
I could go on and on about that time of my life, but I think
it's safe to say that I learned a few things.
On the topic of adopting children with special needs, I'm still
not sure where I stand on that. I know that when tested as a
parent, I have "passed" the test and in a sense, been the most
successful. However, if adoption were in my cards, I would not
discriminate, hopefully that helps answer that question.
When it comes to asking for help, I still do not really do this
outside my marriage. I have learned to take a time-out. Will and
I both have really improved on this. We respect that time alone
to just breathe is necessary to prevent a burn out. No matter
how strong you are, you need help. No one is designed to do this
life alone.
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Ashley - loved reading your post! You and Will have definitely
had a lot thrown at you in life and I'm glad you came out of
this together!! I am also so very thankful that B is
cancer-free and thriving in life!!
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