Subj : Facebook & online stuff
To   : Arelor
From : Boraxman
Date : Thu May 22 2025 08:08:00

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 Ar>   Re: Facebook & online stuff
 Ar>   By: Boraxman to Arelor on
 Ar> Tue May 20 2025 08:29 am

 >  It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less.  Socialise
 > less.    Have less real world interaction.  I think this is evidence that
 > Social Media   probably doesn't bring people together.

 Ar> You are prety much correct in that people does not socialize much
 Ar> anymore. Every now and then some study pops out and shows loneliness
 Ar> statistics are up through the roof. I don't think Social Media in
 Ar> itself is to blame here, though.

 Ar> If you reach deep into serious studies about romantic relationships you
 Ar> find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously
 Ar> unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate
 Ar> as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not
 Ar> getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put
 Ar> effort into the deal.

 Ar> If we think this sample is relatable to friendships and family
  Ar> relationships, it gets things explained IMO.

  I think social media is a big factor, but not the only one.  The trend
towards
  not going out, staying at home was known in the 90s.  I recall someone
talking
  of "cocooning" in the early 90s, where people were choosing to stay at home,
  eat in, etc, instead of going out.  So it was talked about back then, and
that
  was before the Internet became popular in households.

  One thing that struck me when I read "Crime and Punishment" was the
  relationship between Raskolnicok and Razhimihin (I think I spelled that
  right).  They were friends, but the friendship was portrayed as something
akin
  to a proper relationship.  They were involved in each others lives.  They
  didn't just "meet up" for a drink every now and then.  Ancient Greek sources
  of friendship speak of it in similar ways. 

  Is this trend towards unsatisfactory romantic relationships relatively
recent,
  or a longer term trend?  I can see how it is true but I'm interested in when
  it started.

  But I think you hit on something with effort.  People seem to not prioritise
  human relationships.  People are just 'objects' to pass the time with, from
  time to time.  Another way to entertain yourself.


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