Subj : close to someone only thr
To   : AUGUST ABOLINS
From : Rob Mccart
Date : Mon Sep 01 2025 09:24:45

RM> Her relatives could never understand how you could be so
RM> close to someone you only know through eMail and the rare
RM> phone call.

RM> Best explained to them as a friend who you can complain
RM> about your family to without getting into trouble later.. B)

AA>It could also be because another relative could spill the
  >trust-relationship to another relative ..and then, as you say
  >above - that could trigger divisions.   Someone unrelated we
  >converse with (say one to one via email or even over the phone)
  >is less likely "to get involved" with the family members
  >directly.

Yes.. they've often said that a person is more likely to talk
about their problems with a stranger in a bar than with someone
they know well..  But, as you suggest, often sooner or later
something negative you mention to one close family friend or
relative is likely to find its way back to the person you were
talking about, accidentally or on purpose..

Experience has taught me not to say negative things about a
female relative to another female relative .

That's just asking for trouble..   B)

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