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#Post#: 81820--------------------------------------------------
Edamame warning?
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: March 3, 2025, 8:47 pm
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This has happened twice so I'm wondering if it's a me thing and
if I should be doing something different.
I met friends for lunch the other day and was the first to
arrive. I got seated and ordered two apps for table. I asked the
waiter to hold them and put them in when everyone arrived. (I
did this because I was starving and expected that everyone would
alternate between catching up and looking at the menu.)
As predicted we were all chatting and nowhere near ready to
order when the waiter put the appetizers down. One was edamame.
I made a motion that they were for everyone, but didn't want to
interrupt the the friend next to me who was talking.
Out of the corner of my eye I saw the friend seated diagonally
from me take an edamame pod and put the whole thing in her
mouth. I tried not to watch but she appeared surprised and then
undid her napkin and spat the inedible part into it.
She watched another friend and me do the nibble and wiggle
strategy and did the same to eat the edamame.
This is the second time I've ordered edamame and had someone pop
the whole pod in their mouth. Other people have asked me how to
eat it. (My husband said "Is this another 'forage for your
calories' food?") I've never instructed someone on how to eat it
unless they asked. I'm wondering if I should say something and,
if so, what?
*edit - clarity
#Post#: 81821--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: oogyda
Date: March 4, 2025, 6:53 am
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I don't think you should say anything. People learn quickly
enough by observing. If they've decided they don't like it and
will not eat more? That's just more for me!!
#Post#: 81822--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: lowspark
Date: March 4, 2025, 11:16 am
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Particularly in this situation, since as you said, you didn't
want to interrupt the the friend who was talking, I'm not sure
there was a whole lot you could do.
Maybe make sure to grab the first one so that people see you
eating it?
If you do want to say something, you might say, "I love edamame!
Does everyone know how to eat it?"
That way you're not instructing people unless they ask.
#Post#: 81823--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: March 4, 2025, 2:45 pm
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Yes please say something. I didn't know how to eat them the
first time either and would have welcomed a heads up.
#Post#: 81824--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: EmmaJ
Date: March 4, 2025, 5:23 pm
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My ex-SIL mocked me for “wasting food” and popped the whole pod
in her mouth and started chewing. She was obviously startled,
but too stubborn to spit it out, and I just watched her struggle
to chew that fibrous inedible pod. She actually swallowed it.
When I offered her more, she said no thanks, I’m full.
Still roll my eyes every time I think of her.
#Post#: 81825--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: March 5, 2025, 2:15 pm
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--- Quote from: oogyda link ---
>
> I don't think you should say anything. People learn quickly
enough by observing. If they've decided they don't like it and
will not eat more? That's just more for me!!
>
>
--- End Quote ---
This is my strategy with foods I'm unfamiliar with. My
pod-eating friend figured it out. I think edamame is a little
deceiving - it seems straightforward but - surprise!
--- Quote from: lowspark link ---
>
> Particularly in this situation, since as you said, you didn't
want to interrupt the the friend who was talking, I'm not sure
there was a whole lot you could do.
>
> Maybe make sure to grab the first one so that people see you
eating it?
>
> If you do want to say something, you might say, "I love
edamame! Does everyone know how to eat it?"
> That way you're not instructing people unless they ask.
>
--- End Quote ---
The friend who was speaking was sharing something fairly deep,
if had been more surface level conversation, I might have broken
it.
I'm going to use the bolded- thank you! Like I said above,
edamame might be an easy food to assume with.
--- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
>
> Yes please say something. I didn't know how to eat them the
first time either and would have welcomed a heads up.
>
--- End Quote ---
I will be from now on!
--- Quote from: EmmaJ link ---
>
> My ex-SIL mocked me for “wasting food” and popped the whole
pod in her mouth and started chewing. She was obviously
startled, but too stubborn to spit it out, and I just watched
her struggle to chew that fibrous inedible pod. She actually
swallowed it. When I offered her more, she said no thanks, I’m
full.
>
> Still roll my eyes every time I think of her.
>
>
--- End Quote ---
Bwah ha ha! That's incredibly stubborn! Thanks for the laugh.
#Post#: 81884--------------------------------------------------
Re: Edamame warning?
DIR By: Lula
Date: April 25, 2025, 5:37 pm
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The title of this thread makes me giggle every time I visit this
forum.
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