date: Thu 19 Jun 2025 06:08:56 PM PDT subj: no secure browser session, sister tragedy --------------------------------------------------------------- Should I try and tell her what excessive weed use does to people? Should I tell her in the form of a letter? How do you tell a person they are destroying themselves? My sister calls me up nearly 5PM. She says her tablet will not do secure sessions. I struggle to understand what she is actually talking about. As she describes how she doesn't want to signing to google on her tablet she just wants to avoid signing in. I think to myself why not just sign-in but I know its better not to ask. She mixes up her terms in the interface and the application. I ask what app she is using. She tells me she is going to firefox page and its not secure. As I ask her more questions I can confirm what application she is using she gets more and more agitated. She tells me I'm not listening. She repeats I just want to email my doctor. You can call your doctor use the phone if your tablet isn't working. I tell her 'you can do whatever you want.' Dealing with a person who has lost some function of their brain cognition their mind has this idea "I just want to ..." and anything they think isn't leading to that immediately they try to put the person they are dealing with back to the start of where they wanted to get help from. She just can't understand she is saying things about what she is doing that isn't helping lead to discovering what her real issues is and how to show her if any given web page is or isn't secure. At the start of the call she thinks she lost some function on her tablet that makes it so she cant be secure. She tells me I'm not listening to her, and I say the only person not listening between us is you. I don't use tablets so I have to figure out what type of interface she has. I tell her I will call her back. She sends a text to my wife asking her to allow me to help. Odd text. I can only imagine what is going on in her mind, and it isn't good. I get my wife's tablet and bring up applications to figure out what she is using. I call my sister back. I try so hard to get her to do some simple things and tell me what she sees, but my sister doesn't know many of the terms and she gets frustrated. She tells me she's on the firefox page. I have to explain Mozilla Firefox is an application not a page. My sister starts to say how I don't believe her and I'm not listening to her. It takes awhile but I finally get some place. She is using Chrome and I show her how to tell if a webpage is secure or not. I explain about the difference between https and http, and that not all webpages use TLS. She eventually gets upset how she wanted to email her doctor, and how she isn't who she used to be, and her head hurts. I tell her we are all different than who we were before, and she needs to recover from surgery it hasn't been 8 weeks yet. She says she tries to ignore her neighbor but he says stuff to her, and she has no control of her money and a physical therapist is coming over, and the pain is her head is worse, and nobody wants her to use weed even though its organic. I interject and say weed isn't regulated anywhere and its not organic. They've found so many bad chemicals in weed from organic growers. She argues and says they are trying to regulate it, I said yes but they haven't yet. I tried to tell her the goal is to get off all medication, so she can have a better quality of life. She wanted to compare weed with the other medication she takes for pain as a rational to use Mariana. She repeats it over and over what about the long term effects of those (which I have no idea what they are). She said she doesn't want to take oxy, or the others she doesn't even know. At this stage it becomes impossible to reason with her about anything. Its pretty sad she knows in some way she shouldn't be using weed but is thinking short term due to the pain she says she's experiencing. I hate to see her throw more of herself down the hole of debilitation due to self medicating. I feel I can't do much to help her. She can't hear anyone with good sense advise her what to do. Her ego has taken over and her cognition is waning. When my sister cries and tells me how she can't workout, drive, manage her finances, how can one say the more you use weed, the worse you are going to make things for yourself? It really hurts when you figure out what you've done to yourself.