As my interest is growing
with shibari, other similar
subject are popping up
on my youtube feed.

BDSM which is closely related,
started to come up, but the
subject that retained my
attention was "soft Dom".

In BDSM you have this relation
of Dom and Sub, and a dominator
is often seen as a mean abusive
character and a sub, or submissive,
could be portrayed as a human
with low self esteem. 

Reading more about it, I realize
that there is some healing that
can take place during this role
play. A few years ago, I was
researching about Psycho Magic,
a technique developed by
Jodorowsky, a artist, movie
maker, who studied the Tarot.

The idea behind psychomagic,
is to re-create in a theatrical
manner, some of your trauma.
This grandiose enactment become
a source of healing. This
really rang a bell with me,
as I could see that people
weren't able to get out of
their trauma while staying
politically correct.

You can't really liberate by
behaving within the norms.
Traumas are often created
during an intense event,
and I feel like an intense
event is needed to unbound
from that trauma. In that
sense I really resonated
with the idea of psychomagic.

Now reading about BDSM, I
realize that this might be
a powerful pathway for healing.
Taking this most intimate
part of our life, and playing
with it, in a way to liberate
from out past trauma.

Of course there is a possibility
of reinforcing the trauma. And
this is where the concept of
Soft Dom came crashing into
my reality. From what I gather,
the soft Dom is controlling
the sub, but with intention,
with care and with strength.
Dominating someone else for
their own good.

In a strange twist, if you
look at the Guru disciple
relationship in India, you
will hear of similar tales.
Where the Guru test and bring
to the limit the disciple, by
asking them to perform task
to dissolve the ego. It can
be totally seen as a Dom / Sub
role playing. With the purpose
of liberating the disciple.

I once had a teacher that
was testing me like that.
I failed so bad, but it was
quite interesting to see
the process she would use.

For myself, I've never been
a good teacher. I would see
the limitation of my students,
and be annoyed by their lack
of determination or presence.
So all of this is mixing in
my head, in a strange way.

If someone would tell me
they want to liberate and
are ready to do anything
for their liberation, I
would probably be really
mean and direct toward them.
I would challenge their belief,
I would scare them, and make
them do things they are afraid
of, or a judging.

You would need to break the
core belief, remove all the
shame, fear and limitations.
There are no liberated soul
that hasn't got through a
very weird life, and there
is a reason for that.

As our culture limits our
'humaneness' in all these
weird way, spiritual liberation
is becoming almost impossible.
In order to fully liberate
you need to let go of so many
ideas and precepts, meanwhile
our 'political correctness'
is growing really quickly.
We are brainwashed beyond
belief, and the ideal that
we hold for other and for
ourselves are making us mad.
We don't tolerate anything,
and our self hatred is fulled
by medias that polarize our
reality.

It seems like a lot of the
taboos, sex, drug, bdsm, offers
a different path to liberation.

Understanding and using sexuality
to fuel our spiritual energy. Using
psychedelic and drugs to shift our
perspective of reality, and loosening
our ego in it's perception. Using
sexual play like bdsm to work on
our deeply seated trauma, often
based in our early childhood and
sexuality. In a strange way,
it all make sense.