[3/22/2015 KU response: I guess I was "huggy" back then.* Now?*
   Blech! Hugs. Yuck] How to communicate successfully, (c) 1992
   Kenneth Udut When something was done right, always acknowledge
   it. Words are best at first, later follow words with actions.*
   At some point in time, just an action like a gift or a hug will
   be enough to acknowledge it.* But ALWAYS acknowledge them, even
   the littlest things. When something is done wrong, use your
   judgement.* Most people occasionally want to know what they are
   doing wrong.* But it is usually best to keep your mouth shut,
   having an "I want to be honest with you for a second, if it's ok
   with you" talk once in a while. At times, especially in a close
   relationship that hasn't had too much communication, it's best
   talk out all of the negatives while hugging. When you want
   someone to do something for you, keep speech to a minimum, once
   that person knows what's going on.* Trust that the person is
   capable of handling it without having it spelled out. Written
   words are VERY good, as well as actions such as snuggling close
   to a loved one when you want to be cuddled. Establish that there
   is a basic understanding between each of you* - that you are
   able to communicate in a fashion other than words. 1)* Written
   words work the best. The words sit there as a constant
   reminder.* Try not to use actual instructions unless truly
   needed.* Trust that the job at hand will be taken care of by
   some means.* Lead it to the person's own ingenuity to figure out
   the details. 2)* Actions appropriate when there is a bond of
   some sort. There are basic needs of every person.* A hug is a
   basic thing that EVERYONE needs and appreciates, no matter how
   much it doesn't seem so.* A few gentle words usually suffice if
   your actions aren't clear. 3)* Keep your spoken words gentle and
   positive. Negativity is too much of an accepted thing.* Start
   talking positively and gently.* You will get more done that
   way.* Spread some positive light into the world.* We all need a
   little bit of it. (version 0.01 - tossed up on June 23, 1992)