Yeah. Spotlight-on-you. They think they're being nice but the
   feeling it generates is "ok, just go away now". I grew my hair
   long. The very first time someone complimented me on it I
   thought to myself, "THAT'S IT, I'M CUTTING IT. I DON'T WANT YOUR
   APPROVAL - GO AWAY".

   I didn't cut it... but for a split second the urge to chop it
   all off was right there. I understand the "not okay" feeling. I
   don't like good or bad things pointed out about my appearance
   unless *I ask*. Then tell me

   Unless it's like, "Dude, your beard matches your eyes!" because
   then it's a woah moment. I like woah moments... but they're
   different.

   But the "HEY I NOTICED SOMETHING REALLY OBVIOUS ABOUT YOU AND
   I'M GOING TO TELL YOU ABOUT IT" is annoying