I'm bad in this regard. I keep things surface. I rarely get into
   PM with anyone; I keep everything public as much as I can. I
   might play psychologist _once_ with somebody in private chat but
   then I have to decide if they want closure or an audience. If
   it's an audience, well then I respond in public. So I try to be
   careful with one-on-one. There is friendship and then there is
   clinging... and being somebody's last hope is stressful stuff...
   especially when you're not and you're replaceable.d