yeah you understand completely what I was saying. I like to
   start out sounding like an idiot; it gets people riled up and
   then start discussing. Then once I get an audience, I try to
   sound more rational as I go along.. doesn't always work :P [I
   only recently realized I have this pattern] The eye opener for
   me in the video is when I realized: "take out the nail" man to
   woman "look at the map" woman to man and both are saying "NO I
   can figure it out myself - do you think I'm stupid?" in
   response. That's when I realized we all do the same thing, just
   in different domains. Ridiculous in both cases, and I've learned
   to look up directions first and ask if I get lost. 'cause I
   dont' wanna be someone with a nail (obvious problem/obvious
   solution) sticking out of my head when someone looks at it and
   says, "Dude, just [here is solution]" and I go "no no no, I got
   this". I still do though :P Thanks for taking the time to read
   through the thread.