It's a curious question: "What's a popular person?" Who makes
   the decision? Do we each decide we're popular? Or is there a
   group of people who decide, "You are popular" Or do we each look
   at someone else and say, "You are popular." I've had ppl say I
   was popular.* It always surprised me because that's not how I
   see myself.* I never thought of having a lot of friends as
   popular.* It just means having a lot of friends.* Popular is
   something different than that numbers I think.* But... what is
   it? I never could figure out the nature of what "popular" is...
   just that there was always someone who felt the need to take a
   moment out of their day to make me feel "unpopular". Maybe
   making someone feel unpopular makes someone popular? Maybe there
   is a percentage: If 51% of people say you're popular, that makes
   you popular? For a long time now, people take the time to try to
   make me feel "popular".* I like the feeling but I still don't
   think of it is popular, just that I have nice people around
   me.** Are they kissing my butt because they think I'm popular? I
   dunno.* I'm 43 and never figured out the system.* I could never
   read "intent" from people.* There's probably a rulebook I was
   supposed to read in 4th grade that I missed out on.* It's just a
   concept I never really "got". While I couldn't point to anybody
   and say, "This person is popular" and "This person is unpopular"
   [because they're just people to me], I suppose if someone felt
   excluded by being labeled "Popular" and then discarded...* then
   the Unpopular becomes the Popular, roles reverse, and the
   Oppressed become the Oppressor, all the while declaring they're
   still being oppressed. So I'm glad you made the correction.*
   Maybe the distinction could be different?* Instead of Popular,
   you could describe some of the negative characteristics of the
   Popular stereotype that you feel need calling out, without
   grouping people together as the unwanted/undesirable Popular.
   After all, there's not too many behaviors that any of us aren't
   capable of doing, no matter what label is attached to us.* And
   we can all use a helping hand in removing some of the parts of
   ourselves that are undesirable.... or at the very least, it's
   good to have a self-reflective moment to consider, "does this
   apply to me?* If so, is it something I should fix or am I ok the
   way I am?"