rape can go even deeper than fear or terror -- what about
   "grooming"? that's where it really gets fuzzy but not really -
   the same tactics that would be "wooing" somebody who is of
   appropriate age and mental status is COMPLETELY inappriopriate
   and would be rightly defined as rape if it was a child or
   someone who is mentally handicapped or an elderly with severe
   dementia or alzheimers. "