Thanks by the way - you sparked me to write a little blurb (on
   my profile) about this, but in a general way. Changes in society
   won't be in time to help... I feel awful to my gut that you're
   having to wrestle with this dilemma at all - that parents of
   other-gendered children everywhere have to wrestle with this
   issue. Inspired me to search, to see if there's _some_ sign of
   changes somewhere in society. It seems the transgender movement
   has been helping make some strides here. I mean think about it:
   you're being forced to separate from Quinn just so he can use a
   bathroom. As of 2015, there's nothing do be done. How it is.
   There's some weird uncrossable line there. A social wall. I feel
   awful that you're going through this. So many go through this.
   Won't be in time to help but I think someday perhaps the issue
   will just vanish. I was lucky enough to get a taste of it at
   college but of course that's the ivory tower idealism of
   colleges. But that little revolutionary spark still burns - a
   little hope that someday common difficult issues will just
   disappear. But we're still in 2015. I hope you find the answer
   that works in your situation. When I hear of issues I just want
   to grab a magic wand and make them all go away.