^The opposite of love isn't hate: it's apathy-a genuine, down to
   the core "I don't care." (not "It doesn't bother me" (when it
   really does). Hate, rather, is Love that is ruined by severe
   disappointment, by expectations not met. The hater either wishes
   the hated didn't exist (because of the irritation of
   disappointment) or is simply a Judger whose mental image of how
   the other "SHOULD BE" doesn't sync up with REALITY.^