tnx -- it's not something I remember to do each day, but if you
   REALLY sit and think about those three things (and it can be
   very difficult some days - 1st one is the hardest), and say them
   aloud to yourself, or write them down on a post-it, or think
   them in your head, or post on facebook -- you'll find that your
   otherwise bad day was: a) someone not cooperating or agreeing
   with you b) someone giv...ing you a hard time or being distant
   c) something you were counting on didn't come through d) your
   plans fell apart e) something scary came in the mail f)
   someone's making a bad decision and, a lot like a) - isn't
   listening and are stuck on an notion."