The meaning I give is the only meaning there is." "Meaning" in
   semantics is a branch of psychology and ethics (self-reflection
   + morals). You could also say "significance". "It is up to me to
   make something significant or insignificant. No one makes this
   decision for me. What is consequential or inconsequential? What
   do I consider important?" It's a version of, "Pick your battles
   carefully". This is especially true in relationships as the
   biggest fights are usually about the tiniest of things. "