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The Occupation of 2025 has begun! The in-laws and the out-laws.
My house will be occupied territory for 60 days. This is the First
wave. They arrived yesterday afternoon. Second wave is in about
two weeks from now. Hope I survive without incident.
I have been preparing myself for these times, since I found out a
month or so ago. Initially, I was like hell no! This did not go
well with those affected, which pushed me further back into the
dawg haus. I talked it over with some friends and eventually came
to the realization that this was not a battle for me to fight. As
much as I did not want this, my reasoning was all selfish and
self-centered. So I have surrendered to this situation and the
plane is now in flight.
House guests were not really a thing in the household I grew up in.
My folks did not really have any relatives that lived close by and
on rare occassions when they visited, they were from out of state
and only stayed a couple days, a week tops.
The family I married into (not from here) are used to having
frequent house guests and stays for extended periods of time
(months.) This brings about the other out-laws out of the woodwork
which includes long, loud parties and people getting drunk. They
also just say that they are showing up and it is assumed that we
will house them. It took some time for me to understand this
assumption and for my wife to understand that I did not grow up
with this. “Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.”
This quote resonates with me.
Since there is awareness of both perspectives between me and my
wife, we try to be cognizent of each other and work with the
situations accordingly. Unfortunately, this is not one of those
situations. Anything that deals with her family of origin leaves
me as an outsider that has no place to say anything disagreeable,
even in my own house. I have tried to fight it in the past and it
just gets really messy. A mob of in-laws and out-laws with
group-think versus myself, who doesn’t even speak their language.
Unfair, yes. Am I still bitter about it, yes. Am I a victim, hell
no!
So I have been preparing myself for these days and formulating some
self-care and exit strategies to deal with this. My people have
been activated and are aware of the situation. These days
and these people will be my teachers. Hopefully it doesn’t get too
bad and I can keep myself out of the way of the work that needs to
be done. Today is day 02of60.
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