1/3 cup plus 3 tbl. sifted flour
1 1/2 cups milk
3/4 pound (3 sticks) butter
Generous pinch of salt
1 1/2 tsp. vanilla extract
3 3/4 cups strained powdered sugar
Place the flour in a 1-quart saucepan.  Add the milk gradually,
stirring with a rubber spatula.  If the mixture is not smooth, strain
it before cooking.  Place it over moderate heat.  Cook, stirring and
scraping the bottom constantly with a rubber spatula, until the
mixture becomes very thick and bubbles slightly.  Simmer, stirring,
for about 2 minutes.  If necessary, beat with a small wire whisk to
make the mixture smooth.Stir in 1 tbl. of the butter and set the
mixture aside to cool to room temperature - stir it occasionally while
it is cooling.  Place the remaining butter in the large bowl of an
electric mixer and beat until it is slightly softened.  Add the salt,
vanilla, and sugar (gradually) and beat well for about 2 minutes,
scraping the bowl as necessary with a rubber spatula.  Gradually, 1
large spoonful at a time, add the cooled flour and milk mixture.  Then
beat at high speed for a minute or two until the filling is smooth,
light, and fluffy.