yesterday at work we had this guy pop into the lgbtq+ brg's teams chat
and he asked if he should write a post on linkedin coming out as a chaser
on national coming out day. i wrote a response telling him in no way 
should he do that, ever, and he asked me to write his post for him
so he gets it right. he might as well have said: 

>'hello lgbtq+ employees, is there a transgender
>girlboss around to write my posts for me so nobody yells at me for being a
>gross chaser and instead tells
>me how brave i am for having a hot trans girlfriend' 

it gave me the creeps immediately and i did not respond,
saved some screenshots, and let claire and maeve see them and see what
they thought. maeve had my reaction, "wtf" and so i sent it over to claire
who helped me compose a response. i made it clear that he kind of crossed
the line but didn't want to be too mean or direct about it (you know how
closet cases are), made sure to incidentally mention the phrase "hostile
work environment," and ended that i "...intended for this message to represent
my final comments on this matter, in order to preserve our professional 
relationship."

from claire's comments i think she perhaps thought i was a bit too harsh
on this guy but understood how i felt. from her words on teams chat it's
clear that she trusts me to handle subjects like this delicately, even
if i had to tap out here. i think that's a good sign for the upcoming
co-chairship. we're handing him off to his local brg who can hopefully
help him learn to look inwards a bit and figure it out.

later that day annie and the kids came back, i was getting them in 
the bath when i had like a panic attack and my stomach cramped up.
i was trying to explain this situation and she was just pissed off
and thought i was "insane" for thinking this guy was coming on to me.

so this whole thing fucking sucked i guess :\